Friday, 25 January 2013


Someone once told me that the legacy I leave my daughters not only consists of the situations that might cause them pain, but also in the capacity I build in them to be strong and resilient and that the hardest part of being a parent is seeing the impact of your choices in life; reverberate in the life of your child.

To me there is no greater gift than that of being a woman and there is no greater responsibility than that of raising a one. As mothers we have to be aware that these little sponges are watching us so closely and eventually they will imitate what we do or at least some of what we do. The point being that we need to be conscious of the manner in which we are raising our daughter because it will have a major impact on the type of woman they become.

Besides the list of ingredients it takes to at least to some of it right, the best thing we can do for our daughters are to be moms who PRAY... pray for them in the morning, in the afternoon, in the evening! Pray for every area of their lives, for every little thing that may seem so menial... PRAY!

The enemy knows the gifts that God gives His Princesses so he seeks to destroy before we even have the chance to access even a fraction of our potential, the gifts that God has placed within each of us.

I want to encourage all moms to stop trying to be the perfect mother. There is no such thing. One of the best things you can do for your daughter is to teach them that it is okay to mess up, the important theing being that we learn from our mistakes and that we are there for each other when we make mistakes. This is the best display of what unconditional love is. 

The second best thing you can do for her is to teach her to see herself through the eyes of God; for her to realise that she is perfectly and wonderfully made. When she has that, she will never allow anyone into her life that sees her or treats her any less than the Princess that she is!

We need to teach our girls to be gracious, not to be judgmental and not to indulge in gossip and slander. Teach them that they do not need to conform to the way the world does things and to do things just to be accepted into the "in cirlce". Teach them to question and to think for themselves and not to be affraid to stand up for their beliefs even if they have to stand alone! Teach your girls to have respect for other people's beliefs and to do all that they do in love <3 <3 <3



We all have a story to tell and I chose to share my story because I believe that my story is the story of millions of women in one form or another. South Africa has one of the highest levels of sexual violence against women in the world and the perception is that abuse is conducive to environments where there is oppression and poverty but my belief is that abuse of any kind exists WHERE LOVE IS NOT. I believe that the women of South Africa, Africa and all around the world will be empowered when they learn that abuse of any kind is No. 1 not acceptable; No. 2 not part of God’s divine plan for our lives and No. 3 not the end! 

There are different forms of abuse; physical, emotional, economical & sexual; and my message is this: YOU DO NOT HAVE TO LIVE IN THE BONDAGE OF ABUSE OF ANY KIND! If we just had the courage to be real about this issue, to talk about it openly and with empthay and compassion - not with the attitude that it is not my problem or maybe if we don't talk about it, it will just go away.... maybe just maybe we could be that beacon of hope for the multitudes of our sister who are suffering in silence.

IT STARTS WITH ME! "For My Girls" is a tribute to my daughters and all the daughters of the world (regardless of age); my legacy to my own daughters, my footprint in the sand. I want my daughters and all the daughters of the world to know that if I had the courage to go against the grain by lifting my voice in this issue and in so doing breaking free from the torment of living with my secret for so many years, then so can they. 

I have received numerous emails, sms' and phone calls from women who have read "For My Girls", thanking me for sharing my story because they can relate and some women have even confessed that they too have been victims of abuse and reading my story has given them a sense of release, it has given them hope and the courage to overcome. One of the worst things about being abused is the shame that comes with it; you feel like you can't talk to anyone about it. What an amazing thing it is to cross paths with someone who has been there and knows exactly what you are going through.
I chose to share my story with the world in the hope that women who read my book would be inspired and feel empowered in the midst of the thing that may be keeping them in bondage. I believe that if every girl ever born lived her purpose then the world we live in today would be a very different place. I also believe that the reason the world is suffering is because the women of this world are not actively fulfilling the purpose for which they were created. If you are alive, you have a purpose. How great or small the impact that you make is up to you. Open your eyes to the greatness that lies within you. 

Mothers; we need to change our mindsets, our perceptions and the choices that we make. We need to be intentional about the way in which we mold, shape and nurture  people who God has entrusted to us. We need to commit ourselves to TRUTH (taking real understanding to heart), we need to be strong and courageous in facing the mountains, we need to realize that we are more than overcomers and then we must pass that down to our daughters; and that is how we change the world!

My goal for this book is to be in a position where I can freely hand it over to anyone who needs to be encouraged. 

The For My Girls Foundation is a non-profit organisation that was birthed from my vision to see every girl and every woman around me and beyond; fulfill the purpose for which she was created and to do it fearlessly and courageously!  

Order your copy of the book "For My Girls" by sending an email to Natasha directly:  - all proceeds of the books goes directly to the For My Girls Foundations.

The For My Girls Foundation - NPO  

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